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    Check out the following Facebook Support Groups: Breastfeeding Mom’s in NL Breastfeeding Moms in NL welcomes breastfeeding mothers (and supporters) living in Newfoundland and Labrador. They aim to provide mother-to-mother support so that moms are better able to reach their breastfeeding goals. The group is administered by accredited peer breastfeeding supporters and other experienced nursing moms. Since they began in 2011, the group has grown from 70 members to well over 800 members. Visit Page Tongue Tied NL - Awareness, Education, and Support Tongue Tied NL is for parents of tongue tied children, adults, and health care providers. The purpose is to create awareness that tongue tie and lip tie are problems that have a significant impact on health and well-being, to help educate those who are looking for information, and to support those who are in need. Visit Page Newfoundland Baby-led Solids (Weaning) Baby-led weaning is a way of introducing solid foods that allows babies to feed themselves - there’s no spoon feeding and no purées. The baby sits with the family at mealtimes and joins in when she is ready, feeding herself first with her fingers and later with cutlery. Visit Page Natural Parenting Network Newfoundland and Labrador “Natural parenting” is based on a desire to live and parent responsively and consciously. While no two families who practice natural parenting may define it the same way, there are several principles that are widely agreed to be part of this lifestyle. Visit Page Parents Helping Parents with Everyday Questions About Parenting - NL Parenting can be tiring, frustrating, and it can test the patience, intelligence, and mettle of the hardiest of people. This group provides a place where parents can post everyday questions or tips regarding parenting. Visit Page Newfoundland Cloth Diapering Mamas and Papas Providing support and information for those parents in the province who choose to use cloth diapers for their baby. Visit Page Newfoundland Babywearers This group is open to all Newfoundlander parents (and caregivers) who wear their children in any kind of carrier for the purpose of getting tips, troubleshooting advice and support from experienced wearers. Visit Page Read More...

  • I support you... all of you

    Posted by: Andreae Callanan

    I've had people describe me as “pro-breastfeeding” before, and of course I am, but that doesn't mean I'm anti-everything else. If I'm pro-sandwich, does that mean I'm anti-soup? Of course not. Read More...

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Friday Roundup: Is it TIME to change these attitudes?

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Last month, Jamie Lynn Grumet posted an inspiring, somewhat controversial piece on the BlogHer network, titled “10 Things Breastfeeding Advocates Need to Stop Saying.”  Yesterday, Jamie Lynn wound up being the center of another controversy, with touches of inspiration and heapings of judgment. She’s the mom on the cover of TIME breastfeeding her three year old.

In her BlogHer piece, Jamie Lynn discussed how she feels that some of the more judgmental statements from breastfeeding advocates lead to a backlash of criticism against those who choose and succeed to breastfeed:

I only judge moms who have never tried to breastfeed.How about don’t judge at all?

Let’s make it clear, Jamie Lynn did not design the cover for TIME. She had little to do with the article. And she certainly didn’t pick the featured headline “Are You Mom Enough.”

Those were all choices of the magazine’s production team. I doubt even the article author had much say with respect to that headline or the cover photo chosen (for more great photos of extended breasteeding, see the full shoot, here)

Jamie Lynn says she wanted people “ to realize this is biologically normal. It’s not socially normal. The more people see it, the more it’ll become normal in our culture. That’s what I’m hoping. I want people to see it.”

Unfortunately, the headline and the way the cover photo is posed, has drawn more judgment and controversy. People have been reacting strongly to the image, which is not your typical breastfeeding photo. The general public has had a lot to say, revitalising the ridiculous “how old is too old” debate.

But what’s turned off a lot of mothers is the headline. Lisa Belkin posts on Huffington Post that no, she is not “mom enough:”

“Breastfeeding is not a macho test of motherhood, with the winner being the one who nurses the longest. In fact there ARE no macho tests of motherhood. Motherhood is — should be — a village, where we explore each other’s choices, learn from them, respect them, and then go off and make our own.”

What’s unfortunate is that this reflects exactly what Jamie Lynn herself has said:

“There seems to be a war going on between conventional parenting and attachment parenting, and that’s what I want to avoid. I want everyone to be encouraging. We’re not on opposing teams. We all need to be encouraging to each other, and I don’t think we’re doing a very good job at that.”

And, unfortunately, the article itself, about the growth of the attachment parenting movement and the unique social significance of it to American mothers today has been lost in the hulabaloo over a provocative photo and a provoking headline.

TIME could’ve done better here. But judging from the reactions, we can all do better.

Friday Roundup: Is it TIME to change these attitudes?


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